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| It's the kind of thing that would appall many a rock-ribbed prude, and the stuff of Eurotrash and Jerry Springer: a gay guy in nappies. With a hard dick. | |
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It's also a touchy topic for many queer men, toying as it does with the
stereotypes of gay men as paedophiles and of gay men as hopelessly immature.
But for others, that's part of the transgressive fun. "Sometimes," says one enthusiast, "it's nice to just let go and get nasty. Who the hell does it hurt, anyway?" For many guys into nappy play, it's usually part of an age-regression scene - pretending to be a little boy. |
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That sort of infantilism play can include not just Pampers, but a love of other
props: rattles, teething rings, an oversize playpen. Still, the nappy is most
always the main erotic component - baby-drag, as it were. And drag is just
what it is, clothing for playing. One man who loves topping in nappy scenes
explains, "I really have no interest at all in young boys, not even twinks in their
early 20s. Adult men in nappies is what turns me on, watching them let go of their
maturity and just wallow."
Wallowing, in this case, usually means having sex of one sort or another while dressed in those nappies. Things can get squishy: masturbating in or through a nappy can result in a pleasantly warm, wet crotchful of cum. And it has to be the ultimate in safe sex. But sometimes it includes a bit of hardcore messiness - think watersports, then perhaps changing with the odour of baby powder in the air. As with any other fetish, tastes vary: some guys prefer disposables, others classic cloth (more environmentally friendly), and plastic training pants can keep things from getting too sloppy. And just the kinky aesthetics can be a kick. Mr. Nappy Top says, "I love the look of a trim man, his body defined, wearing a nappy that's bulging with a hard-on. The nappy's the opposite of form-fitting, and that bulkiness contrasting with smooth flesh really turns me on." Sort of post modern designer underwear. Not every nappy scene is about age regression. Hanging out in Huggies also can be about the degrading (if temporary) disempowerment of a happily submissive bottom. Says one kinky lad, "For me, having someone dress me in nappies isn't about pretending to be a baby. It's all about humiliation." In this case, it's humiliation with safety pins attached. Yet, kink can be more complex than it seems to the casual eye. In one of the many paradoxes of perversion, nappy-play scenes can be full of mock-parental affection, the vulnerable would-be babe being coddled by a loving (if sometimes strict) Daddy top. This sort of costumed kinkiness need not be restricted to the playroom. "I love wearing nappies under my clothes when I go out, like I have a secret. Sometimes I let the secret show a bit, keeping the waist of the nappy visible above my jeans." He smiles. "I guess I'm a pervert, huh? One thing I'd like to do, but never have, is go to a bar or backroom or somewhere with a kinky top, and have him pull down my pants and let everyone see I have a nappy on. God, that would be so hot." Is pulling on a Pampers and fucking around a productive, psychologist-approved expression of mature affection? Well, maybe, maybe not. And it's certainly a minority taste. But as part of a balanced diet of consensual adult sex play, it can be, for at least a few fake-little boys, a real big, grown-up thrill.
Simon SheppardSan Francisco artist and activist Simon Sheppard is best known for his contributions to the erotic literary scene. He wrote hundreds of stories that appeared in S/M magazines; erotic anthologies; and over twenty editions of Best Gay Erotica and Best American Erotica. His Sextalk column has appeared on OutUK for more than 20 years. You can find out more about Simon Sheppard in this OutUK feature and tribute, or take a look at some of his many books that are still available:
Looking for something very sexy and just as smart? Man on Man collects the best and hottest gay sex writing by Simon, who is also co-editor of Rough Stuff: Tales of Gay Men, Sex, and Power as well as a collection of gay erotica called Hotter Than Hell. In KINKORAMA : Dispatches from the Front Lines of Perversion he takes readers behind the unmarked doors and black vinyl curtains that lead to the sometimes shocking, often hilarious, relentlessly arousing scenarios of extreme sex. There are also stories of bears in Tales from the Bear Cult: Beat Bear Stories from the Best Magazines. | |
